Get Me Out Of Here!
Posted: January 23, 2011 at 7:11 pmOver the past couple of weeks we have been quite the homebodies. I guess we should expect as much with a newborn kiddo. We spend our days indoors away from the cold and then at night hang out on the couch with a movie. Not to say that’s bad; I really liked Social Network and our relaxing evening last night.
This morning when we woke up, however, I wanted to get out.
We hadn’t planned on it for another week or two, but we ended up heading to church today. It was just the place I wanted to go. Not only do we get the inspirational message, but we also get social time since many of our good friends are from church. I loved making it out of the house to visit a place I truly love and people I love as well.
I did quickly learn something new though. Getting two kids ready and out the door takes forever. We had two hours, which I figured was more than enough. Ha! We had two adults to get showered and ready. Two kids to dress. Four mouths to feed. Bags to pack up. Two hours felt more like twenty minutes.
I began feeling slightly overwhelmed by the time we got out the door. For some reason the larger worries of life don’t really phase me, but comparatively minor details can send me into freak-out mode.I don’t 100% know why. My best guess would be seeking control.
I must admit that it all makes me a bit anxious. Peter goes back to work tomorrow. We may have a nice little routine going, and I certainly don’t have any pressing time commitments to get out the door for, but I sure will miss having an extra pair of hands when I really need them. I must remind myself that things will get taken care of and I will figure it out. Also, as time goes on things will get smoother and easier. Things haven’t been too bad yet!
Question of the Evening – What types of things overwhelm you?
Tags: early post-baby days
Church is the best place to go to 🙂 I’m sorry you felt overwhelmed ! I have a feeling you will do just fine this first week without Mr. FFF 😉 Your an awesome mom & don’t forget that!
Big things stress me out. Like what am I going to do with my life? Will I EVER find a job, how will I feed myself? You know, the usual thoughts for an unemployed 22 year old.
Anyways, you look so great! I am so happy for you and your family. I’m sure you will streamline your routine as baby B gets older. It will just take some getting used to.
Things get much easier as they get older…thats for sure. And figuring everything out is so hectic. It will fall into place soon I bet. 🙂
I am totally overwhelmed by details…messy kitchen, stuff out of place, random things laying around. Lack of visual order in my world = lack of mental peace and order in my own head 🙂
Stay strong, mama!
everything will work itself out. I often have to remind myself of this, repeatedly. FAITH helps 🙂
Yes! Faith is HUGE!!
Sorry you are feeling overwhelmed- you are doing great!!
I get overwhelmed by lots of schoolwork, but I guess that is pretty obvious:)
You will be great, Tina! The Lord will give you just enough. I sure wish I lived closer, because I would come on over and offer to help pack those cuties up!
Everything seems to be overwhelming me at the moment, but I guess that’s what pregnancy can do to you. You’ll do great and things will get easier 🙂
I remember the 1st pregnancy and how overwhelming it was. Crazy!
Stay strong Tina! You are an amazing woman and momma, and you WILL figure everthing out, even without Mr FFF around to help! God is always there though, so trust in Him 🙂
I’m stressed by the little details too, and always looking for a way to control a situation. But I’m working on it…
Glad you finally got out of the house today!
Good luck getting back into a groove–something tells me you’ll do great.
Church is a great first outing — no one will judge if the kids are a little fussy and you can go as you are. I have enough trouble getting myself organized; can’t imagine dealing with two young kids right now, too.
Oh I’m have major issues with control – but I am working on it. I won’t change over night, but I can take little steps to get there!
Your first trip out was to a wonderful place! I promise that it does get somewhat easier as time goes on. Of course I can’t lie to you, at 8 & 4 it is still hectic to get the boys ready and get all of us out the door on time. The main thing that really helps is that they can now do things for themselves I just have to make the initial preps. I let everything worry/stress me. My husband always tells me to chill. I actually have that as one of my goals for 2011 – to not worry/stress over things you can’t control.
I guess with time you get used to it, huh? 🙂
Oh my dear…how I have so often heard that with a new family addition time just slips away when you are trying to accomplish just about anything. I know you already are doing this…but continue to be kind to yourself.
Overwhelm is no fun task. I am exactly like you actually- I can handle the big stuff. I immediately feel calm and together when the big overwhelm hits. But when those little moments throughout the day happen- I crumble and fast. It takes deep breathing, reminding me of what is important and sometimes a serious sweat session to get through it!
You look wonderful!
Glad you were able to get out. Don’t worry — it won’t be long now… maybe blame it on the weather. 😉
I am totallly overwhelmed by the small things too–I can’t stand a messy house, beds unmade, dishes in the sink, dirty clothes, things out of place. I wish I could just let it be, but sadly I can’t
Definitely getting four people out the door! Ugh, sorry, it does not get any better. If you need me when Peter leaves, let me know. I am happy to help out!
I cannot even imagine trying to get 2 kids, myself and hubby out the door! I almost mentioned the impossibility of being on time just trying to get a hubby and 2 dogs out the door on time! Usually it’s something minor that totally stresses me out, something totally irrational too.
I imagine it must be overwhelming, but I know you’ll be great!! Like you said, things will be taken care of – start with the basics and see what the day brings. You might be surprised with a few minutes of peace! 🙂
I can get overwhelmed when I’m juggling a million pieces or entering uncharted territory. I just remember to take it one thing at a time. (That probably is hard to to when you have 2 kids, but I believe in you!)
“I must remind myself that things will get taken care of and I will figure it out.” In grad school our teacher always said “it never doesn’t get done.” It was funny because it was so ungrammatical and she was this major grammar nazi, and it always stuck with me – I know i’ll figure it out and it would be easier to do if i’m clear-headed and not overwhelmed! i get overwhelmed when I host a party – I was SO overwhelemed on Saturday trying to get everything done!
I think I need to make that my new mantra. Thanks, Kelly!
I love how Baby B is waving to all his fans in that picture! That’s great that your husband has been able to take some time off! I wish I were closer… I’d come kid wrangle for a day with you to make the transition easier!
I just started reading your blog…because I am in the same boat as you…only about three months in. I just had my 2nd child in October and I totally know about getting out of the house. By the time I get out I’m so tired that I want to just go back in. It’s hard but it gets easier. I’m thinking once this horrible winter is over it will be a breeze. Good luck with your husband going back to work…its’ hard but nice to get a routine going.
I feel the same. Will be a big adjustment but nice to find the new normal at the same time.
I still cannot get over how cute Baby B is! Precious! Good luck tomorrow, you’ll do great!
I remember the first day my husband went back to work after number 2 was born… trust me, it won’t be as bad as you’re expecting. Remember that it’s okay if the clothes aren’t folded and the dishes aren’t put away. 🙂
I love that photo of B. Looks like he’s waving at all his adoring fans (that’s us).
Oh gosh…you two look great in that photo! Love it. I get overwhelmed really easily…you name it, work, school, wedding planning, body-image stuff, not being “good enough” etc…it’s a bad habit of mine but I’m trying to get better about taking things slowly, breathing, and understanding that everything WILL be ok!
You are basically my hero for caring for a newborn with another little one at home. You’re stronger than you know!! I’m a little obsessive about time management too. I haven’t a clue what I’ll be doing two months for now, but I have my next two hours planned out and I’ll get a little anxious if something screws with those plans!
Oh, Tina! I am right there with you. My second baby (a boy) is 8 weeks old tomorrow and my daughter is almost 3, so you and I have some things in common. I feel like it is getting a bit easier, but it does take forever to get out the door. I just keep a bag packed for both of them and it just stays packed. That just seems to help. It’s so fun to be reading about your journey as a mother of two as I am going through the same thing!! My only encouragement is keep praying for God to help you and that every week gets a little bit easier.
It is so so great having ohers out there in the same boat. Thanks!
I think it can be easier to stress about little things because they’re always immediate and seem overwhelming, whereas it’s easier to put head in sand over big things. Hope it all went well and validated you!
I stress over time-management and always overexpecting how much I can do. And whether I please people…
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Ela
I am overwhelmed by trying to do it all… work, school, maintain a clean house. I’m learning how to ask for help (even if my man is dense and I have to ask repeatedly!) and just let some things go by the wayside sometimes too (if the bathroom doesn’t get cleaned today it’s not the end of the world!)
Details overwhelm me as well!!! I always know in the grand scheme of things, it will work out, but if “x” or “y” doesn’t happen, it hits the fan over here!!!
Aww, cuties! You both look great.
I feel you about the smaller things stressing me. My most stressful moments are when I’m letting my son cry it out at night after I’ve done everything I can and he just needs to cry. SO hard.
Good luck tomorrow! 🙂
Getting two kids ready will get easier, I promise! I remember those first few weeks with two trying to get ready to go somewhere, etc! It’s pure craziness, but it does get easier! I’m completely impressed that you guys were out and ready to get going already! I didn’t want to go anywhere after my second!
You and the little one look fabulous! Good luck tomorrow!
i’m glad you were able to get out of the house! i understand what you mean about the little things stressing you out, though. when things happen to suddenly change plans or i’m running late, those are the times when i get easily flustered and am most likely to snap at my fiance, sister, or anyone who gets in my way.
but honestly, i have to remind myself that if i arrive 5 minutes late, or don’t get the dog hair off my pants before we leave, NO ONE WILL CARE. that helps!
Good point about no one caring. And people usually understand when you have a little one. Thanks!
That’s great that you got to get out and go to church. By the way your little guy is so adorable. Like the cutest baby ever : )
A lot of my stress deals with school…. more of the social end of things though. I feel like I don’t relate with my peers as much as I did last year…. at least I mesh well with my sorority sisters!
Aren’t you cold just wearing a sweater? I totally sound like my mom!
My house being messy and unorganized overwhelms me all the time.
haha! I just got done b’feeding and I always get SO hot during then. I felt really comfy actually. Normally I would be freezing!
Little details stress me out and then when they start to seem to add up…I have a hard time. But it is all good. You have this girl! Stay strong!
I remember feeling SO overwhelmed when I tried to leave the house with an infant. My gosh it was like a 45 minute ordeal just to pack the diaper bag! I more often than not just gave up and sat right back on the couch.
Kudos to you Tina for not just doing it but doing it with 2 kids! You will be fine tomorrow!! I know it.
Oh Tina! I can totally relate. I feel like the big picture always seems to make sense. Sometimes the little pictures (like getting three kids out the door each dayx3) seem that much more frustrating. And don’t get me started on Holidays and/or Birthday parties. 🙂 I just tell myself “breathe” 🙂
I always feel overwhelmed and stressed when I am. Running late, even if it really doesnt matter if I’m late. I’m bad about putting silly time constraints on myself. You’ll do great this week! As far as I’m concerned, you’re super mom!!
Shoot, I can’t ever get out of the house and I’m just one person haha. Good for you 🙂
I’m the same way–it’s the small things that get to me. I am easily frazzled by a dirty kitchen (the one I’m using now is always messy because I live with two college-age boys/men!), and standstill traffic. I also struggle a bit with time management, and always seem to be running late or working on papers and projects up to the last minute!
I’m glad you were able to get to church, even though it was a bit of a hassle. You’re right–you WILL figure it out. It might be hard at first, but your faith and resilience will carry you through. And even though having two kids requires double the effort, at least they’re ADORABLE!! You’re so blessed!
Too much on my plate. I always take on more than I can handle (I have a hard time saying no!). I get overwhelmed quite often……
And what a cute picture of you and Baby B! For being overwhelmed, you look so calm and refreshed. 🙂
It will all work out, I promise! It will be crazy at first, but pretty soon you’ll be into a new routine and all the craziness will be forgotten.
Going places with two small childrend always is more complicated than you think, especially with a newborn, but it does get easier everytime. I found that keeping the diaper bag packed and ready to go was a big help.
I wondered when you might make it to church when I wrote tihs post last night.
http://got2run4me.wordpress.com/2011/01/23/going-to-church/
I figured it was something you would WANT to be doing soon. 😉
I couldn’t wait to get back to church. It’s something I look forward to every week.
yikes, that does sound overwhelming! i’ve heard that kids take a lot longer than one could imagine…sounds like that’s right!
Hang in there it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job 🙂 I get overwhelmed by little things too especially when it comes to being on time (and I always seem to be late anyway).
So glad that you were able to get out of the house for a bit.
I have always heard that “if you think you are busy with one child, wait until you have two. then you’ll see what busy really is.” Truth be told, after reading this post, im scared out of my wits! Ha! Like you, i get very anxious .. i certainly think it’s a self control thing.
Good luck today with Peter going back to work. I am certain you will smooth sail right into a new groove/routine while he’s away at work. Have a great day! <3