Today, I Coped

Posted: February 17, 2011 at 8:25 pm

Today, I coped by crying.
Today, I coped by
researching to help ease the immediate fears I had.
Today, I coped by
being there for a friend during the loss of his father and gaining some much needed perspective.
Today, I coped by punching and kicking out emotional tension with a workout
Today, I coped by
remembering food does not feed emotions.
Today, I coped by praying.
And today, I will cope by turning to you all for support.

My mother was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis today. The most wonderful, giving, loving, and selfless person I have ever known. It came completely unexpected. I can’t help but feel afraid as watching a loved one’s health diminish is one of my ultimate fears. All I can say is the only way I know I can continue to cope is with faith. I appreciate any prayers, positive thoughts, or whatever you got sent my mother’s and my family’s way as we adjust to this news. And super prayers for the health of the best woman out there. I love you, Mom.



146 Comments to “Today, I Coped”
  1. Heather says:

    oh honey, i’m crying now too. i can’t imagine what you are your family are going through with this news, but i do know that God will always rise above anything we will ever face on this earth. He loves your mom, he is FOR your mom, and he will take care of her. Just keep loving her and letting her know how special she is!

    praying for you sweetie!

  2. teresa says:

    I’m so, so, so, so sorry. I feel the same way about my mom and can’t imagine….
    I’m sending lots of hugs and love to you all.

  3. I am definitely praying for you, your mom, and all of those whose life she touches! xo

  4. Hugs to you! One of my best friends from high school’s mom has MS. Thankfully, her flareups have been minimal. Praying for you and your momma.

  5. God bless you. All of your coping skills you listed were a blessing in themselves to remind us of so many skills to use. I was recently tested for suspected MS and it was negative, so they still don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I can understand and empathize with your mom. Thinking of your family!

  6. Lee says:

    Sending positive thoughts your way. As you might remember, my dad had major surgery for cancer last year, so I know how scary it is to have a parent’s health in jeopardy. Please don’t hesitate to email or call me if you need to talk.

  7. My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight, Tina. <3

  8. Dorry says:

    Sending prayers to you, your mom and the rest of your family. I know several people with MS and have been thankful to watch them respond to treatment. I am hoping and praying that your mom’s health triumphs over this! And I know God will take care of you all. Turn it over to Him! xo

  9. Last year my Mom was diagnosed with Parkinson’s, and lately it’s finally been hitting me and really getting me down, thinking about her future. It’s really hard to start dealing with a parent’s deteriorating health. You’re not alone.

    • Tina says:

      I hate hearing that you are going through something like this as well. We can always be there for each other if a need to reach out arises. I’m here for you!

  10. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way 🙁

  11. Becca says:

    Oh, Tina. I’m thinking of and praying for you and the family.
    I know a little bit of what that fear is like. For several months, we were afraid my mom had MS. When we got the news that it wasn’t, I was so relieved. I was so afraid that if it was, I’d break down.
    I’m sure you’ll handle it great! You’re already coping, and you’ve definitely got support! Lots of love and prayers coming your way from all over the place! 🙂

  12. Oh goodness! Just stay strong for her and enjoy her life as it is now. Be grateful that she was able to be active for so long and enjoy her grandbabies. 😀

  13. Sorry to hear the news, but I know your faith and family will carry you through!!!

  14. Anna says:

    Praying for you and your family right now. For strength, support, comfort and answers.

  15. i’m sorry that you and your family are going through this rough time. you are all in my prayers.

  16. Rach says:

    Oh Tina, I’m so sorry. I will be in prayer for your mom and family.

  17. Sending prayers your way. {{{{HUGS}}}}

  18. Elaine says:

    Oh Tina I am so sorry. I feel better knowing that your mom has you and your sweet family behind her to support and love her through this journey. Praying and thinking of you!

  19. Mac says:

    I’m sorry to hear the news.. best of luck she’ll be in my prayers!

  20. Shannon says:

    Oh Tina! I am so sorry! How scary! I will be praying for you and for your mom and hoping that they find an effective treatment to manage her condition.

  21. Anna says:

    I’m holding you and your mom close in my thoughts.

  22. Heather says:

    Oh my goodness sweetie, I’m so sorry! I will definitely be keeping your beautiful mother in my thoughts and prayers!

  23. I am deeply saddened that this has to happen to your beautiful mother and your family. You are all in my prayers.

  24. Oh Tina, I’m so so sorry to hear this news. Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you and your mom strength and comfort during these tough times.

  25. Ela says:

    Your mom is beautiful–and so are you and your children! How hard to receive this news coupled with your friend’s bereavement.

    Sending you gentle healing thoughts and prayers.

    I can only say that I have come across several people who were diagnosed with MS and were able to maintain a high level of health and happiness, controlling it through diet and certain supplements. I don’t have the expertise or details to advise specifics, but just wanted to share that there is definitely hope, it’s not a dread sentence. Sending you hope, peace, love

  26. Sasha says:

    My prayers are with you and your mom and your family.

    I don’t know if this is an appropriate time to bring this up, but I have heard of several people diagnosed with MS benefit from a breathing/yoga technique called “Sudarshan Kriya”. It is taught by the Art of Living Foundation and has tons of benefits for a host of medical conditions. I myself did the program after a long bout of spinal illness and am back to normal, much to the doc’s surprise. I hope your mom will have the inclination to take up the program.

    Love & Prayers,

  27. just wanted to send my love, support, and thoughts for you + your mom!

  28. Melodie says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I will be praying for her. My ex husband’s uncle has MS and has been able to lead a normal life after finding out which medications work best for him. There was about a year that was bad while they figured out what worked for him though. Praying for your family!!

  29. Mandy says:

    You already know I am praying for you guys. Please let me know if you need anything. I know all too well what it is like when something makes your mommy not feel so well for longer than a few days:( She will not die from this, sweetheart, but the best thing you can do is be there for her to support her and listen and understand. Love you!

  30. Praying for your mom and for your family.
    I am pretty close with the MS community. I have a long time client who has MS, and she’s one of the strongest people I know 🙂 We’re actually writing a book together on exercise and MS and her struggles/successes.

  31. Wow, Tina…I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. I’m praying God’s strength, peace and healing for your family. Just remember, He’s got your back, is in control and is so much bigger than this. 🙂

  32. Megan says:

    i’m absolutely praying for you. i know what you’re going through – my grandfather in law just passed away early yesterday morning. it was very hard to see him so weak and not be able to do things for himself.

    keep your faith – that’s the only thing that will get you through anything.

    • Tina says:

      And you/your family will be in my prayers as well. Sorry to her about your grandfather in law. Its always hard to accept the loss or pain of a loved one. Hugs.

  33. nysoonergirl says:

    You guys are in my thoughts.

  34. Sarah R says:

    Oh goodness 🙁 Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

  35. Cori says:

    Aw Tina, so sorry to hear this news. There is nothing else to say that hasn’t already been in the comments – warm thoughts and prayers for strength and courage to face this challenge.

  36. Oh boy. I am praying for you and your sweet, beautiful mom!

  37. Wow! Just WOW!!! I am speechless. I am heartbroken. I am covered in goosebumps of hearing the news. Tina, I am truly so sorry for the news bestowed upon you and your family. This is rough news but with your Faith in God and all the love and support provided by friends and family, your family and your Mom will overcome this challenge. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. **BIG HUG**

  38. Jess says:

    I am so, so, so sorry about your mom, Tina. I don’t even know what the right thing to say is but just know that we’re ALL here for you, sending you lots of hugs and positive energy. Stay strong.

  39. Kacy says:

    I’m so so so sorry Tina! I will be praying my heart out for you and your family. My heart is heavy with this news, but I know God has a plan and will provide. We’re all here for you!

  40. Karen says:

    so sorry to hear it… Prayers for you and your family.

  41. I’m so sorry Tina! I have an aunt with MS who does not take care of herself (smokes like a chimney, lies around all day) and is miserable with it, but I knew someone else with it that ate healthy food and stayed active and was only rarely bothered by it. MS is only one aspect of your Mom’s overall health, if she takes care of the rest hopefully it won’t be as scary as it sounds. My thoughts are with your family.

  42. I’m sorry Tina. Like the others I’ve heard that many times if someone takes care of themselves the MS is controllable. My prayers are with her and your family. “The prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective.” James 5:16

  43. Oh Tina, I’m so sorry to learn of your mother’s diagnosis. I’m sure with such a great support system your family is your mother will do just fine & be able to manage it. One of my best friends from college was diagnosed with MS a few years ago when she was in her mid/late 20s – she was of course devastated when she was diagnosed, but as time passes she realized that she could control the symptoms & she has really flourished since then – all of her symptoms are under control, she’s no longer afraid to think/dream about the future & she even got married (which is something she never expected). I know that’s not really any consolation to you, but hopefully knowing that others have done really well since being diagnosed & that the fear will ease with time will help you and your family get through this.

    My thoughts are with your mother and the rest of your family.

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  45. Erica says:

    Oh girl! My thoughts and prayers are definitely with you. So much love. Please let me know if there is anything we can do to help!

  46. Katy says:

    Honey, I am so sorry…cry, scream, hug your mom and kids and do whatever you need to do to cope.

    As a side note, I love the new look to the blog.

  47. Kelly says:

    Oh Tina, I am so sorry!! I will be thinking about you for a long time. I think you are such an amazing woman and I can only imagine what an amazing mother you have. You have helped me in so many countless ways and I have even made the consious effort to have a good week this week ever since your last email. No one deserves this but I have such faith in your ability to transcend adversity that I know you and your entire family will find a way to make this the best possible situation that can be.

  48. I’m sorry to hear this sweetie. I think you’re coping in positive ways at least. There is a lady on the Cathe check in forum I do who has MS. She still works out almost daily and fully believes that staying active is really key. I hope your mom finds a great doctor she can work with with more positive outlooks.

  49. Stacy says:

    I am so sorry to hear this, Tina. I will definitely be praying for your mom and your family. Someone very close to me also has MS, so if you would ever like talk to talk please let me know.

  50. I understand ALL too well. My mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in July. I know I’ve had the fear of will she be able to carry her grandchild? Will my father be able to cope with caring for her? Was she serious when she told me that she’d kill herself before it got too bad and she was too much of a burden? On and on and on…

    I have my bad days. My days that I cry about how unfair it is. That a woman that spends 2 hours a day in the gym, and is only 55 can no longer continue her profession and true love of teaching music because her vocal cords won’t let her sing and her shaking hands won’t let her play the piano.

    Sorry to make any of it about me, but I’m just saying that I GET IT. Please email me if you need to. I’ll be praying for your mom.

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