30 days of self love – confidence

Posted: September 1, 2010 at 8:00 am

Welcome to the 30 Days of Self-Love Reflections (30 DSLR for short)!!!! For those of you just stumbling across my site and this movement, the 30 DSLR is to bring a positive change into each of our lives one day at a time. Each day will feature a new topic and message to reflect on and motivate positivity throughout your day and, hopefully, beyond. I look forward to everyone’s participation and the growth it will bring us! Here we go! 😀


When trying to decide what topic would best suit the start of 30 DSLR only one thing came to mind. Confidence. Confidence portrays so much beauty and strength, yet somehow always seems just out of reach to achieve. Why? Because we don’t believe we deserve it or fail to see what we have to feel confident about.


That’s right. We each have something in which to lay confidence. All of us have unique strengths and qualities that we should not ignore or gloss over, but instead lift up into the light and proclaim as our own with pride and joy. Those things which we can take ownership of in confidence come in many shapes and sizes. You can see it in your mad cooking skills, your ability to make others laugh and laugh with them, your giving of love for a friend/spouse/child, your ability to push your body in a workout, your smile, your good sense of style, your mind and ability to problem solve, your compassion on others, your go with the flow demeanor…ANYTHING!


Do not forget your strengths by focusing on weaknesses, because we all have those too. BUT those do not define us. Our strengths define us. Something else to remember. You are stronger than you think. You may not believe so, but you have the power to change everything. You have the power to turn your life into something beautiful. You are reading this post and stepping out to love yourself more, then in turn love others more, and then have the potential to change the world. Yes, YOU! Each of us have that power and simply moving, or even desiring to move, towards a positive place speaks volumes.


Be confident in what you can do! Trust in yourself and the changes YOU can make and that can happen in you. We all start somewhere. I did too. I knew I couldn’t keep half living and things didn’t change in one day. It hurt and many tears fell on my path. They still do. BUT I knew change was possible and that I could be that change. I did gain confidence in God, but I still had to do the actions. If I can do it, you can too. Take those steps and remember how wonderful you are. BE CONFIDENT TODAY! Tell yourself you can do this. You can change your outlook, your focus, the message you share. You can!

Take a few moments to quietly reflect on confidence and recognize what you have to offer. You have something! Focus on that throughout the day. Whenever you feel down, remember who YOU are and what you have to be proud of. Don’t negate it!

What do you have to be confident about? Proclaim it in the comment section and don’t forget that affirmation!

Quotes to Reflect On
It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not. ~Author Unknown

We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies. ~Roderick Thorp, Rainbow Drive

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173 Comments to “30 days of self love – confidence”
  1. Ohhh, Tina, I LOVE this idea!!! I’m in!

    Just saw your great guest post on HTP, too! Excellent post!

  2. sarah says:

    I just pressed bookmark. I think this is great!

  3. Tina!! I love the first post!! You are awesome, girl!!!

    Confidence is such a great way to kick it off!!..this is something I have always struggled with, but my confidence comes from knowing that I am great at what I do, and inspire others!!

  4. Carol says:

    Hello I just read your story on Healthy Tipping Point and thought I would check out your blog!
    Great post. Having confidence within myself is certainly something that I struggle with. I have consistently put myself down and think that I am not as good as other people. It definitely a work-in-progress but I think I am starting to come around. I look forward to reading the rest of your posts on this.

    • Tina says:

      I’m so glad you came by! I hope participating in this helps you gain some confidence too. I really think we each have something to be proud of.

  5. Ikam says:

    It’s funny, I just came across a quote from Ziggy (yes the cartoon character) that said something to the effect of: we can complain that roses have thorns or we can rejoice that thorns have roses. I thought it was appropriate for your post. We too often focus on the negative and forget to celebrate the positive. Glad we’re starting this month on the right foot.

    • Tina says:

      I’ve heard that before and love it too! A great way to show that changing our perspective can make such a difference.

      • Ikam says:

        It really is all about the paradigm shift! Perspective is key! Thanks for your reply, and have a wonderful month! xoxo

  6. You are sooo inspiring and the work you do to spread good vibes to all on your blog is a huge ripple effect that is felt vast and wide…bravo to you girl!!!! 🙂

  7. I struggle with confidence sometimes. I think it’s definitely something that has to come from within. Anytime I try to manufacture confidence (e.g. fake it) I end up feeling cocky instead. Maybe it’s about doing exercises like this to remind yourself of your own value.

    I am smart and a quick learner. I am kind and forgiving. I’m a positive person (generally) and I’m really great at my job!

  8. LindseyAnn says:

    This is fantastic!
    I went in to more detail on my personal blog, but the big 3 points that I hit in that entry were these:
    1. Earning my college degree
    2. Even if I wasn’t a great teacher, I still made a difference in some students’ lives.
    3. I have put forth the work, and on Saturday I will finish my very first half-marathon!

    Thank you so much for doing this! 🙂

    • Tina says:

      Those are all fabulous things!!! I used to teach too and learned it wasn’t quite as much for me as I thought, but you’re right. We still can have made a difference.

  9. Great way to kick of the initiative!

    I agree that confidence is key. I didn’t believe in my ability to run for years and that held me back. Once I was confident in myself and was able to face the fear I got past it. I’m running a 1/2 marathon in a few weeks and that is my testament to how having confidence can change everything.

  10. Purvi says:

    That my daughter loves me. My daughter is two and goes to daycare daily. As soon as she sees me, her faces LIGHTS up and she drops everything she’s doing. She makes sure that everyone knows her mommy is here. Makes me feel great 🙂

    Just wish that attitude would come home with her too!!

    • Tina says:

      I can certainly relate to this. The happiness and love on a kid’s face for you speaks volumes. And I have to laugh at her bringing that attitude home. LOL

  11. Sami says:

    i just LOVE Your positive posts. so uplifting. thanks, TINA!

  12. Kelly says:

    I found your blog via HTP. Thanks Caitlin! I look forward to the next 30 days. This is a great concept that hopefully will continue far past 30 days.

    I am a strong independant woman who is caring and sensitive and loving.

    I do struggle with believing I am smart enough to do something more with my life. I constantly come up with “reasons” why I can’t do this or that. But I have taught myself about vegan nutrition and a vegan lifestyle. My family and friends often come to me for advice on those topics. This quote was written just for me.

    It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not. ~Author Unknown

    • Tina says:

      You don’t need to be smart at everything to be smart and have a purpose. I think the health you are sharing with loved ones makes a huge difference and is something you should definitely be proud of!

  13. Julie says:

    Just had an amazing talk with my kids (ages 6 & 8) during a 30 minute car ride. I asked them if they knew what self-confidence was and it started the words flowing – they had all kinds of things to say about it and themselves. I’m thinking this will be a great way to have some mom and kid talks in the next month as school is starting and they are facing new struggles and triumphs and interacting with their peers. HOORAY for self love reflections for ourselves and those close to us!

  14. Healthy Amy says:

    Wow – this is a powerful post and it is only day one!! Thank you so much Tina for this challenge – the quotes at the end are fantastic x

  15. Bree says:

    I was reading this post as my phone rang with some really great news. Between this and that call, my confidence is soaring right now. Thank you! It’s coincidences like this that help me remember my faith.

    p.s. I love your guest post on HTP today, too. I can relate as I am sure a lot of young women like us can, too.

  16. I am confident in my ability to be a loving and supportive wife, a caring daughter and a good employee. Wearing a lot of hats takes multi-tasking and I am good at prioritizing!

  17. Harmony says:

    Oh this post couldn’t come at a better time for me. Due to several reasons that I may go into on a post later on my blog, several things have fallen by the wayside in my life lately. Thank you for bringing them back into focus. I love this new initiative, and I have to say your blog is one of the few I’ve come across that incorporates everything important in my life, faith, fitness, and fun. What a wonderful thing to stumble upon it!!

    • Tina says:

      Those things mean so much to me too (obviously haha). I really think all aspects need to be involved for the most fulfilling life possible. Have a wonderful rest of the day!

  18. Jess says:

    This sounds really great and I would love to be a part of it! I’m a new blogger but I’ll try my best!

  19. Hmm….confidence. I love what you said about our weaknesses. We all have them and really–who cares! You are right–no one will remember you for your weaknesses, they will remember you for what you are good at!

    I can be confident that I care about others. I can be confident that I’m light hearted. I can be confident because I’m a good friend.

  20. homecookedem says:

    Back in my disordered eating days, I might have been thin, but I was not pretty. I wasn’t pretty because I wasn’t confident. I was mean, bitter, anxious, and difficult. Now that I have let go of those things, I am bigger, but I am beautiful now. I am kind, patient, easy (well easier) going, HAPPY, and I pray more. I have a closer relationship with God, which in turn has brought me closer to my family and friends. I am so thankful to have my confidence back.

  21. AshleyCarole says:

    I love this! I am 23 and have been struggling with my body image since middle school. Over the past two years I have started to really take care of my body through eating healthy and exercising. I also have struggled with a dysfunctional relationship with food. I still sometimes hear that voice inside my head telling me I can do better. I realize that it is time to stop listening to my voice and gain confidence in what I can do! I am now in my second year of grad school and am training fro my first 1/2 marathon. Both of these things I would have never dreamed of doing 5 years ago!

  22. Mama Pea says:

    This is absolutely fantastic. Thank you for inspiring me to value myself more today!

  23. amy says:

    I need confidence in my dietician that shes going to help me gain healthy weight w/o going overboard. I’m scared of putting on too much weight.

    • Tina says:

      Remember your weight is a # that is not attached to your worth. Your strength and inner beauty matter most. That you are working to get healthier shows much strength and power. I commend you for that! Focus on those qualities. They are what make you a fabulous you. 🙂

  24. Nannette says:

    I just came across your 30 Day Challenge today and LOVE the idea! This first post was just what I needed today.

    I am confident in that I have the ability to love without reservation, especially those who have made mistakes or are dealing with tough situations. I have been blessed with the gift of compassion and hope to share it with everyone I meet!

    My sister and I have this little saying for when either of us is feeling discouraged or just having one of those “ugly days”. One of us will tell the other “Wear your confidence!”. Without fail, those 3 words put a smile on my face and help me put my thoughts into perspective.

    Thanks again for this post. I am looking forward to following along the rest of this month!

  25. What a wonderful and beautiful post!

    I am confident in my ability to love myself, my body, my mind and everyone in my life. I am confident in my strength, my resiliency and my belief in others. I am confident in trusting my heart and where it leads me. I am confident that my life will be full, balanced, healthy and peaceful!

  26. Astrid says:

    I am confident because I can take care of myself as well as others. I am a very giving person. I am strong and creative, too. Oh, and I am smart! Thank you for doing this. This is a great post.

  27. MIndy says:

    This is a great start to the 30 days of self love.

    I’ve realized recently that I do struggle with confidence about my physical appearance, as most of us do, but that I’m slowly starting to focus on being confident about myself in other ways. I think the biggest one is my health. I’ve started eating clean (no processed foods, no junk, etc.) and I am proud of what I am feeding my body and the effects it will have, both long- and short-term.

    Thanks for reminding me of that confidence!

  28. Brittany P. says:

    I’m so excited for the next 30 days of self love, confidence is such a great way to start! Thanks Tina!!

    I’m guilty of doubting myself too much, looking at the mirror and only finding the negative…it is something I’m working hard to overcome & “stop the fat talk” as Caitlin always says.

    I’m confident in my smile and I try to flash it as often as possible. I’m confident in my “go-getter” attitude, that if I am challenged I will come up with a way to overcome that challenge. I am confident in my ability to love others and see the positive in everyone.

    • I am a fellow 30 DSLR participant and was reading through everyone’s comments, and loved that you are confident in your smile! Smiles are GREAT to receive, and are contagious. As a matter of fact, I am smiling just reading about you smiling. 🙂

  29. Kathleen says:

    Thank you Tina! This totally made my day.

    I am confident that I am a great mom to my two sons. They are 20 & 18 and we’ve had to walk some rocky roads but they have grown into great men and I love them unconditionally.

  30. Kat says:

    Just found you through HTP. What an awesome thing you are doing. I am confident that I give the best I can each day at work.

  31. Reneé says:

    I posted! Above is the direct link…

  32. This is a fantastic way to kick off the month … Love that first quote at the end. It’s so true that it’s what we worry we’re not holds us back.

    What do I have to be confident about? I’m a good writer and I can make people laugh. When I love, I love wholeheartedly.

    Hmm … coming up with positive things to say about myself is a little tougher than I thought.

  33. I borrowed one of your quotes and one of your pictures for my blog. I think Confidence is the best way to start the 30 days! Thank you!!!
    Below is my list of things I am confident about (which are elaborated on my blog)
    1) I am absolutely loved!
    2) I am smart! (this is where I have been struggling)
    3) I am a runner!

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  35. Wow, look at all these amazing comments! Congrats on a great start to the 30 DSLR!

    “You are stronger than you think. You may not believe so, but you have the power to change everything.” This really spoke to me today. As you know, this has been an incredibly difficult week for me, but the one thing that it has shown me is that I have strength that I never even realized. I have amazed myself in handling the situations with which I’ve been presented with relative calm and acceptance, and I’ve been able to therefore focus on my own power – the power to change my life in a positive way due to this “unfortunate” circumstance. Thanks for choosing “confidence” as the message for today. It’s so important!

  36. Leah says:

    I am confident because I am taking care of myself and am active. And in the words of my 4yo — “I am a genius!”

    Thanks for the great post.

    • Tina says:

      Yep. Viewing yourself through your kid’s eyes can make you feel really amazing. Well, before they hit the preteen years I’m guessing. LOL

  37. Michele says:

    I love this idea! I am trying to get over a very rough patch in my life and this is just what I need right now as I am not feeling very confident about myself but I hope to change that.

    Thank you!

  38. Jennifer says:

    I am so struggling these days and I thank you Tina and everyone who is along for the ride for giving me a way to claw my way back into happiness. I just had no idea how to begin the self love process and then you showed up!!
    I am confident in
    1) the fact that I am always myself, no matter whose company I’m in. No games and no faking it.
    2) I don’t have a quitter attitude. Even when I’m low and discouraged, giving in has never been an option for me.
    3) I work out like a fiend and LOVE it. My friends ask me to bootcamp their butts 🙂
    Now to write these on paper when I can remind myself daily. 🙂 Thanks!

  39. Gina says:

    Hello Tina, I’m Gina 😉 My husband calls me Tina sometimes after the llama on Napoleon Dynamite. Anyway, I love your idea for the 30DLSR. I found out about your blog by reading Caitlin’s post today. Here is what makes me confident!
    1. I for once have a healthy relation ship with food (no more binges followed by guilt followed by more binges)
    2. I have wonderful people in my life who love me for who I am
    3. I can (usually) laugh at myself

  40. ashleigh says:

    I can tell I am going to love these posts!

    It’s kind of sad because when I read “what are you most confident about” “what’s your best quality”, etc. I don’t usually know what to say.. I have so much doubt but I have a lot to be proud of and I really am stronger than I think!

    I’m the one person that everyone in my life thought would never leave home. I was such a daddy’s girl (still am) and slept on my parents floor whenever it thundered well into my teens, yet now I live by MYSELF in the city of Boston. I am a completely independent woman 🙂

    I am also confident that I am the best fur mommy ever to my two cats 🙂

  41. Sharon says:

    I am confident that after a difficult August that included the death of my father-in-law and a huge setback to my weight loss during that time, September is offering a new beginning. I have confidence in my strength to get back on track and resume the steady march to my goal.

    Thanks for the time you obviously are going to be spending on this. I really appreciate it.

  42. Marcia says:

    I ma confident in my mothering skills! I really am. 🙂 Those kids mean so much to me that I want them to be proud of me.
    I am a good friend to the few that I have.

    I am confident in what I do– group exercise instructor.


  43. andi says:

    I love, love, love this, and am so excited to be a part of the 30 days! you are an amazing woman, Tina. 😀

    confidence has always been one of my biggest struggles. generally I take on a ‘fake it until you make it’ approach. but if I were to be 100% honest with myself …
    – I am confident in my abilities as a student
    – I am confident that I WILL be able to get this weight off, once and for all
    – I am confident that I am a loyal, true friend to those close to me

  44. This topic touches me so much. I have confidence ISSUES. I think because of my EXTREMELY Type-A (to the point of anxiety) personality, I never feel like ANYTHING is good enough. I know there is always something better, and find it hard to accept anything less than perfection. It takes looking at it from an outsider’s perspective to realize how much I have accomplished and how proud of myself I should be. I swam at a national level beginning in 8th grade, I’ve done open water swims across the SF Bay, I graduated from Berkeley two years early, I have a teaching credential…that I earned WHILE I taught in inner-city Oakland, I overcame an eating disorder. If it were a stranger, I would be impressed. And even though it’s me, I should STILL be impressed. Easier said than done.

    What am I confident about? I am confident in my intelligence and my intellect. I am confident in my athletic abilities. And, finally, I am confident that I can successfully make my OWN decisions and live my OWN life.

    Thanks for this great post!

  45. Jen says:

    Love the idea and the first post.

    I just saw your post on Healthy Tipping Point, which was a great message and story by the way.

    Keep me “posted” with the email updates. I only have a few hours left to reflect on today’s awesome message, but tomorrow’s another day!

  46. After a crazy day that definitely didn’t go as planned, I finally had time to sit down and read this post. I was feeling a bit down, rehashing how my day could have been better had I not done X, Y, and Z…But this made me stop in my tracks! You’re SO right–it’s all about perspective! I have the CHOICE to walk confidently and to focus on all of the blessings during my day. AND, I have the choice to recognize my strengths and use them to love more people. It’s so easy to forget this!

    This part, in particular, resonated with me: “BUT I knew change was possible and that I could be that change. I did gain confidence in God, but I still had to do the actions. ”

    I think I’ve finally learned this! After years of wishing and praying for change in my life, I realized that God wasn’t going to make those changes for me…It was my responsibility! Accepting that, and embracing it, have been truly life changing. 🙂

  47. Sherris says:

    I am confident in my drive and and willingness to do what it takes to truly live and be the person I am to the fullest. I am confident in my ability to continue to just be me.

  48. Ela says:

    been a crazy busy day, but I just blogged, and said a little about this.
    thanks again

  49. Pauline says:

    I am confident about these things:

    1) I am brave enough to examine my inner life and search for the truth underlying all my neurotic, frantic running around and “achieving”.

    2) Because of all my past neurotic, frantic running around, I have a lot of “achievements” that I can take pride in. So I will! *Pats on the back*.

    3) I am committed to caring for myself, body, mind and soul.

    I send out these vibes to all of you beautiful people out there, that you, too, will commit to taking care of yourselves, in all of your magical, miraculous aspects.

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