completely irresponsible

Posted: October 18, 2010 at 8:54 am

Yesterday I was completely irresponsible. In every way imaginable. You should be ashamed to call me a friend.


I was an irresponsible mother. I ignored my daughter all day in order to stay in bed and watch an entire season of Friends on DVD. Little M told me she hated me and disowns me as her mother last night. How sad.

I was an irresponsible Christian. I didn’t go to church so I could sleep in. My friends in Sunday School all emailed me to tell me they have now lost their way because I wasn’t there to lead class. God warned me that he almost zapped me with lightning because being in church every Sunday is what us religious folk should do. And following “the rules” is what being a Christian is all about don’t you know. Faith, grace, mercy, peace, and love don’t mean a thing obviously.

I was an irresponsible fitness enthusiast. I had plenty of time to get in a workout yesterday, but opted to sleep for an extra 5 or 6 hours off and on throughout the day instead.

I was an irresponsible friend. I skipped one of my friend’s kiddo’s birthday parties even though she came to M’s just the day before. What can I say? I was selfish and wanted to keep the gift I woke up with all to myself. I didn’t want to share it with those kids and her family. It was MINE!

I was an irresponsible pregnant woman. I took medicine. The horrors! I have now poisoned my baby with that Tylenol. Little B’s growth shall forever be stunted.

I was an irresponsible blogger. I didn’t take a single photo yesterday. I didn’t post a single word. I didn’t reply to comments or think about visiting other blogs. My blog shall now shut down. What was I thinking to take a day off? I will have lost numerous readers and subscribers from that decision. After all, wouldn’t I have been smarter to put up a post saying “I’m Sick! Be back later! The end.” than to ignore my computer? Shame on me and my so-called blogger status! May I now grovel at your feet to beg you to keep reading this little ole blog. And then how dare I sleep in this morning and leave you with this craptastic post?! I guess I should have hired little M to fill in, huh?


**Disclaimer: I sincerely hope you read all of the above with a sense of sarcasm in mind.** If you haven’t figured it out already, I woke up incredibly ill yesterday. I could. not. move! I had chills, body aches, an intense headache, a throat so constricted and burning I could not speak, and waves of nausea thinking I was in the mood for surfing them all day long. So I took a day off to rest up and hopefully feel better by today, which I do. Thank goodness too. You all know how I feel about Mondays!

I can honestly say I feel better because I allowed myself the time to just chill and soak up the care from my husband and the freedom to laze all day. I gave myself freedom from the expectations I place on myself and the need I feel to constantly work hard to improve as a mother, wife, blogger, friend, in my faith, etc. I can place high standards on myself and I know that. Sometimes, however, we have to simply say “Forget it!” and live with it.


I actually felt proud of myself for doing so yesterday. I didn’t forge on to keep from feeling like I let others down. I didn’t toss up a post because, while it may work for others, I prefer to share things I genuinely want to share and not write for the sake of writing. Even if that drops my page views for the day or subscribers for the week. I knew trying to play super mom despite illness would only have left me unable to mother and love my child for at least an extra day or two. I may not be 100% today, but at least I function. And the world didn’t stop turning without me. What a shocker! 😉

  • I hope you all had FANTABULOUS weekends. What did you do?
  • Do you ever put pressure on yourself to keep going or do something for the sake of it, even though its not necessary?


70 Comments to “completely irresponsible”
  1. I am glad you are feeling better Tina! I think it is so important to not put pressure on ourselves, especially to do things we love doing. We all need a break sometimes!

    • Tina says:

      Exactly. If you put pressure on things you love, you end up disliking them. I think we both know that really well. 😉

  2. Glad you’re feeling better and glad you just did what you needed to do yesterday – REST.

  3. I definitely missed you, but i’m happy to hear you took time for yourself… and happy you’re feeling better today! Love the photo of M on the “computer” !! 😀

  4. NO shame in resting and taking a break when you need to! I try to remember that things won’t fall apart just because I check out for a day.

    Hope you’re feeling better, Tina!

  5. Mandy says:

    hope you are feeling better!

  6. Mellissa says:

    It is so good when you can take the time you need to feel better, rest and don’t push yourself too hard!

  7. Cynthia says:

    I hope you feel better! I’m sure you and that little baby of yours needed the rest. 🙂

    I sometimes feel a lot of pressure to work out even when I don’t feel like it or when I am tired or sick. Not good. Sometimes you just have to realize that a day off isn’t going to hurt anything. And I’m sure those Friends DVDs were a lot better than working out anyway!

  8. So sorry that you were feeling bad, but so glad that you gave yourself permission to rest and take care of yourself. You set such a wonderful, balanced example

  9. Angela says:

    I’m glad to hear you’re feeling a bit better now Tina! I have sometimes pushed myself hard, even though I need a rest, but it all catches up in the end. Now I’m more appreciative of my spare time and I think I’m getting better at listening to my body. Good for you for taking that time off.. .that’s what weekends are for! 😀

  10. I’m so glad you decided to take some time to take care of yourself! And I can certainly appreciate the sarcasm in your post… I’m a big fan of the humor of sarcasm 🙂

    And to answer your question… yes, I feel pressure a lot of the time to do things that could easily be put off a day without anyone noticing… why do we (as women) do that??

  11. I hope you feel better soon! I hate that you had such a rough day yesterday. I push myself to get better, but never blog for the sake of blogging. I think you were right to rest up! Get better soon sweetie!

  12. Glad you feel better! And…of course. I’d be a slug if I didn’t let that nagging little internal voice get to me!

  13. Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you were so sick! Poor thing! I’m glad you woke up on your “favorite” day feeling better. Hope your energy comes back in full swing and you feel refreshed and revived ASAP:)

    Man, oh, man- this is the EXACT POST that I needed to read right now. (You have a way of doing that, ya know?!) I’ve been feeling SO SO SO much pressure lately to accomplish this goal of bikini by next month’s show (the LAST one of 2010 within a driving distance), even though I do not feel ready. I feel like “for the sake of my blog and those following” I’d be letting people down if I didn’t follow through with next month’s show and write about the experience, even though my body is NOT ready. I went to a Cathy Savage workshop yesterday and can tell you that I am about to make a huge shift in the “competition” arena. I’m still going to try some bikini shows BUT God opened an even great door (for me!) that I am going to open with much more enthusiasm! I’m going to share it on my blog later today, but I told my husband last night that my life, confidence and health are WAY more important than getting up on stage to meet a deadline (that I set for myself) for the sake of my blog. He keeps reminding me that all the pressure I feel is self-induced and as of today, I’m not putting pressure on myself anymore. Great post! 🙂

    • Tina says:

      I can’t wait to read your post later! And I felt the exact same way when I prepped for my first competition about 3.5 years ago. I had to pull out because I was screwing up my blood sugar and felt like such a failure. But then, I realized people were happy I did because I was doing what was best for me at the time.

  14. Tina I hope you are feeling better. Being sick just sucks!

    I read your post with sarcasm, but I must say that I tell myself those things: that somehow so many people and places depend on ME which isn’t true. The world will go on even if I stay in bed all day long 🙂

  15. Even God took a rest day 🙂 Hope you’re feeling better, Tina!

  16. Glad you are feeling better – but you are allowed to take it easy today too!

    When I’m sick, I stop everything, recovery just comes faster that way, as you can see. I always feel so much pressure from myself though, “Maybe I could have done a light workout. Maybe I could have thrown laundry in while I slept….”. I’m working on growing out of this.

  17. Good for you for honoring yourself. So often, women push themselves beyond where they should because of obligations. Well, since our first and most important obligation is to ourselves, this is how you do it. I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well, but hey, you’ve got to take care of yourself in order to be healthy and take care of others. Hope you are feeling better!

    • Tina says:

      Thanks! And that’s what I always try to remember. I have to care for myself in order to fully care for others. 🙂

  18. Brooke says:

    glad you’re feeling better. sometimes it helps to give in and get over it quicker than to plow on through.

    i have a new 5K PR…even though my race was 3.2 miles.

  19. Emily says:

    Sometimes I feel like if I miss out on stuff the world really will not go on and EVERYONE will be mad at me! Such crazy expectations we put on ourselves. I am glad you had a day of rest and hope you are starting to feel better 🙂

  20. Jess says:

    Aw hope you feel better!

  21. I’m sorry you weren’t feeling so hot!

    My Sunday was similar. I had quite a few ideas of things I could have done- but they just didn’t happen. My one completely free day… and all I did was slice up a pumpkin and bake some blondies…

    Some may actually call that successful, though! 😉

  22. Camille says:

    It sounds like we had similar weekends… doing nothing!

  23. Oh I love your humor. I love the adorable dog pic at the top even more! 🙂

    Us women are so tough on ourselves with expectations, demands, must do’s and all, aren’t we!!! It’s incredible. I’m sorry you were sicko but am very very glad you did what your body needed! Now do it again some weekend for NO reason at all! It’s a challenge!

  24. I’m so glad you took a rest day, and that you’re feeling better today!

  25. I have always loved that I have no problems resting and relaxing and never feeling guilty. That’s one thing I’ve never had an issue with thankfully.

    I didn’t want to go to the grocery store, but Sean really needed something so I went yesterday. otherwise, I would have had my butt on the couch ALL DAY!

    glad you are feeling better today!

  26. Caitlin says:

    I started reading this and was like, “noooo you’re not a bad Mommy!” haha I’m glad you were being sarcastic. I agree with what’s been said above here – you definitely deserve a break before you get too run down! I’m glad you are feeling better! xo

  27. Hope the daughter got over her momentary anger (kids are very funny like that!), and rest up!

    I’ve had a sore throat for 5 days and am wondering if/when it will turn into something more. I think everyone’s getting HIT with all these weather changes!

    • Tina says:

      I should have seen it coming. My body felt tired on Friday and then a bit of nausea on Saturday. I thought it was just pregnancy fun and pushed through M’s party and the pumpkin patch all on Saturday. Probably not smart considering how I woke up yesterday.

      Hope yours doesn’t turn into something more!

  28. Oh.. that puppy looks so cute 😀 anyway, yes. I do feel pressure at time to do this and that but I always try to ignore it a bit… I hate being under pressure and some things really can wait, it’s all about prioritizing!

    Hope you feel better soon!!

  29. Lately, the weekends pretty much equal irresponsibility for me! I prefer to call it “rest time” though 😉 You deserve it!! Hope you feel better!

  30. Nic says:

    Not irresponsible, just taking some time for yourself. Good for you!

    • Tina says:

      Oh I completely know I wasn’t irresponsible. That’s my sarcasm coming out. They really do need a sarcasm font. 😉

  31. Loved this post! : ) Feel better!

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  33. Emily says:

    I’m so glad that you took the time to take care of yourself and recuperate, Tina! Yay for feeling better.

    I definitely do feel pressure to blog sometimes, but I really think that living life is key to being a good blogger. Sometimes other things get in the way (both good and bad!). 🙂

  34. So glad you are feeling better. Sometimes it can be so hard to just sit back and rest, especially when we feel there are so many things we could be doing. Resting and listening to your body is probably the reason you feel better so soon.

  35. Oh NOOOO!! Glad you are feeling better…that sounds like it was awful 🙁

    You know our body, and you rested…some people would of tried to push it, but that’s why you are feeling well again and some illnesses linger in people for a while!

  36. Aww, I’m sorry to hear you’re sick!! I hope you’re already feeling better 🙂

    Some days we just need to listen to our bodies, and as much as our bodies love to move, they like to rest even better. Glad you honored your body!

  37. So so glad you are feeling better this morning! being sick is NO fun!!

    I used to have feelings of guilt when I did not keep up to others expectations, particularly my blog, but realized…this is supposed to be fun! So I quit typing weekends and write when I feel inspired!!
    I have a post up today, would love to hear your comments!

  38. Dorry says:

    So glad you took the day for yourself but sorry you were/are sick. Hope you are feeling better today! The older I get, the more I know my own limits and sickness aside, sometimes I’m just not up for a social activity or anything for that matter. In order to take care of others, you’ve gotta take care of YOU! 🙂

  39. Glad your feeling better!
    Sometimes a day of being “irresponsible” is EXACTLY what you need.
    I didnt work out ONCE this weekend because I was feeling sick-ish. It was awesome. 🙂

  40. oh no! i hope you feel better soon – waking up sick is NO FUN!

  41. Jess says:

    GOOD for you for taking care of yourself over the weekend. Rest up and FEEL BETTER!!! xoxo

  42. Maren says:

    I hope you feel better soon, it’s only early fall- so not cool to start the sick season so early.

    • Tina says:

      I always seem to catch stuff when the weather changes. I’ll go through the depths of winter without anything but when it turns to spring, I’ll get sick. Drives me batty.

  43. I can’t even believe I’m going to comment on such an irresponsible blogger’s blog. Hmph!


    Glad you took a day off of life, girlfriend! Hope you’re feeling better today!

  44. Felicia says:

    good for you for taking a break and giving your body a chance to heal! its often hard to say no, but sometimes its necessary. I am sure everyone who missed you understands! now go back under the covers and enjoy some warm soup 🙂

  45. Great to have you back.

    My weekend was so-so. I was busy with my writing (and the day job), so no relaxation for me.

  46. Eliza says:

    I’m sorry you were sick, but this sounds like a great weekend in some ways! I’m sick now too, and I have to admit that part of me is a little happy about feeling totally justified in wearing long johns and watching t.v. all day, while sipping tea.
    We should find ways to allow ourselves to be indulgent when we don’t feel like crap, huh?

    • Tina says:

      Yea. A day like yesterday would be REALLY nice just for the heck of it. Maybe I can convince Peter of it again before the baby comes. 😀

  47. Rachel says:

    Oh I’m sorry you were sick! Glad you are feeling better and you took the time to rest when you needed it. Good for you.

  48. Great advice: forget about it! God forgives and forgets our mistakes which means we can, too.

  49. Allie Finch says:

    Sometimes we need a break — even from things we love, so we do not end up despising them — there is no shame in resting when you need it. 🙂

  50. Ela says:

    _Congrats_ on taking the day off! I’m so pleased for you. I got the sarcasm, but wasn’t it a little heavy handed? Please forgive yourself already 😉

    Love little M with her mini-typewriter!


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