i really don’t like…

Posted: November 16, 2010 at 12:00 pm

I really don’t like when my husband and I get upset with each other over stress and miscommunications…but I’m blessed to have someone with whom I can share love, communicate openly, and grow stronger.


I really don’t like when my achy hips and lower back keep me up much of the night and leave me constantly exhausted…but I’m blessed for the baby growing inside of me that causes such discomfort.


I really don’t like when my morning quiet time gets interrupted by a particular two year old who thinks the day begins at 6 am as well…but I’m blessed to share those particular mornings with her.


I really don’t like when I get headaches…but I’m blessed to have a life and the ability to feel that pain.

I really don’t like when rain cancels plans for the day…but I’m blessed to have shelter from that rain and cold.

I really don’t like when I have so much to do and don’t feel like I have enough time…but I’m blessed that those basic to-dos are my biggest worries for my time right now.

I really don’t like a lot of things, way more than mentioned here, but also…many more blessings than mentioned here exist as well.

One of the things I took away from this past weekend was a greater change in perspective. I already believed in the power of our thoughts and how they affect our approach to life. I even included “perspective” as part of the 30 Days of Self Love in September. I regularly focused on keeping things in perspective when facing difficult days. Many times, however, that change went only to the brain and not to the heart.

I could tell myself, “oh its not that bad” and logically make things feel a little better. Deep down inside, however, I continued to hold on to my frustrations, worry, disappointment, or whatever else currently plagued me. A particular visual practice stuck with me and I now try to utilize that to more fully release the negatives - breathing in the love, joy, peace, kindness, etc of the Spirit and breathing out the natural reactions and emotions of the self. Perhaps that’s why I always liked yoga from the start, huh? 😉

I must always remember though, that I have the power and freedom to choose my perspective. Just as I have the power and freedom to choose my priorities and how I focus my time. I can already see the process never ends and each day poses new challenges. It truly boils down to taking each day, each moment, one at a time. Perhaps eventually it will turn into a more natural process. Until then, I will keep practicing.

  • What is something you really don’t like? Can you find a positive side to it?
  • Do you have any methods you use to help relieve stress or gain a better perspective on situations?

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47 Comments to “i really don’t like…”
  1. I really don’t like no being able to get work of my own, but I am thankful for working with my husband and being able to provide for my family. I am just learning to roll with the punches at this point. The economy is horrible and at least we are safe where we are right now!

  2. I don’t like living so far from my family (20 hours away!), but I’m lucky to have great friends who are becoming like family to us here, and I’m lucky that we have the funds to travel home for holidays and vacations.

  3. Toni says:

    Excellent post! Showing gratitude is soooo important!

  4. I LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE!! What an amazing perspective. I really don’t like that my knee is injured but I am so blessed to have great health in every other area and I am blessed that it is getting better everyday and I am learning so much through this injury!! Your blog makes me happy!

  5. Angela says:

    Great post Tina, I needed this today! I had a “I’m grateful moment” this weekend at the course I was at too. I think being able to find positives in life is such a valuable skill because it totally changes the way we see things and react. I know that if I wake up in a crappy mood, it could have the power to affect my whole day. However, taking a little time to do exactly what you said above can make the day a million times better. Thanks! 🙂

  6. You are seriously THEE most beautiful pregnant woman! Just *glowing*!!!!

  7. G says:

    Needed this today – thank you so much….

  8. Bonnie says:

    What a thoughtful and inspiring post! I don’t like my daily 5:30 am wake ups for work (and even earlier now that we have our first real snowfall in Calgary) and leaving my cute husband snug in bed. BUT, I do love being up to enjoy the sunrise, get going on my day, and I’m grateful for the work I have – as a traveling personal trainer I’m invited into people’s homes and love being able to help others live out a better quality of life through fitness. LOTS to be grateful for. And today I’m grateful for the snow b/c I don’t have to drive anywhere, it looks beautiful, and it meant pancakes at home with my man today. 😉

    I think having a positive perspective isn’t fake or cheesy, but rather keeping things more in reality – it’s never truly as bad as we think it is or feel it at the time. My faith in and relationship with Christ is the main anchor to help give me an “eternal perspective,” and phone calls to my mom back in the States help too. 😉 Have an awesome day!

  9. I really don’t like when I feel alone in dealing with something…but thank God for the blogger community because there is always someone out there that gets it.

  10. i really don’t like fighting with my husband either…but you’re right, it makes us stronger and gives us a deeper understanding of one another!

  11. Love your perspective, Tina!

    Something I don’t like before I do it- cardio. Yet every.single.time I finish, without fail I feel amazing!

    I’ve made morning cardio so much more enjoyable as that is my time with God. I pray and talk to God and praise Him for the ability to walk, run, bike, whatever. I focus on all the amazing things going on and the workout is over and not only have I done a great thing for my body, but for my soul:)

    • Tina says:

      I love praying while doing workouts too. Although its hard sometimes in group classes which is all I do right now. But I did a LOT of talking with God during comp prep cardio. 🙂

  12. Love this post- putting perspective on things is always really helpful.
    Right now, I hate that I have a 10 page paper due in 5 days, with not much time to do it! But I love my opportunities for education and that I’m able to write on something I’m interested in.

  13. Mandy says:

    Totally can relate to all of this 🙂

  14. Astrid says:

    I adore what you said about headaches. You are healthy and have the ability to feel that pain, and enjoy when it is not there. Great perspective, Tina!
    I really don’t like that I have spent 3+ years in grad school and have gotten nowhere with my research. But it has taught me that research isn’t my thing and it is time to move on, take a huge leap, and go after something I actually want.
    Thank you for being such an awesome inspiration.

  15. Melie says:

    Great reminder! I am usually more of a “glass half-empty” than “glass half-full” kind of person, but I am working on it!

    • Tina says:

      I have been there and I think my natural tendency is to have the glass half empty perspective still. It takes effort, but seeing how much more enjoyable life is keeps me moving with the positivity. 🙂

  16. Sarah says:

    I really don’t like how mean my neighbors are to each other and to their kids…but I’m grateful that I get to spend some time (even when it’s just minutes..or seconds) with those kids.

  17. I don’t like getting up early and going to work and then spending 8.5 hours of my day at work — but I am blessed to have a job, I am blessed to have good coworkers, a great boss and a growing company.

    ( I need to remind myself of that one constantly…)

  18. I love that you wrote this! When my husband and I got married we decided to make the theme of our vows about “joyful work.” Marriage is work, raising kids is work, filing taxes…i could go on and on. We’re here to remind each other to fully experience the joy when times are good and to find the hidden joy in the tough stuff. It’s working so far!

  19. marlo says:

    I loved this post. Its so easy to get into a negative mind set about things. its nice to stop and think, well its really not that bad. Thanks for the positive cheer this morning.

  20. I really enjoyed this post.

    I also believe that we can choose our perspective and thus completely change the situation we are in. I needed a reminder of that today.

  21. Good post! I have been struggling with reading negative comments and not to let it upset me. I don’t like when people are negative. It’s probably not possible to find something positive in EVERYTHING, but I certainly always try and you did a good job of doing so in today’s post!

  22. Amazing post Tina, really enjoyed reading this because it is all so true. My boyfriend actually helped me get this mindset of changing my perspective because he unfortunately had a very difficult life growing up to his college years, and he opened my mind to what you’ve stated above. I guess there was a reason God put us together, because we’ve taught each other so much from our experiences. Anyway, when you have this type of perspective life becomes so much better in a way 🙂

  23. Mary says:

    I try to do this whenever I get upset about something. For example – I don’t like my job, but at least I have work. I have to tell myself that daily…

  24. Heather says:

    I really don’t like that I have to drive 30 miles to work every day, but I’m blessed to have a job where I LOVE the people I work with.
    Great post!

  25. I lovehow you found a positive aspect in all of those things! Nice job!

  26. I love this post!! I really believe that all the negatives in life have a positive in there somewhere. Even if its just something little – finding the good makes life SO much better!

  27. Jess says:

    I really don’t like my job…but I’m blessed to be collecting a paycheck when so many (husband included) are unemployed.

  28. Heather says:

    I dont like when plans get changed!
    But I am blessed to get to go do fun things!

  29. Really great post. I don’t like it when my schedule goes awry but sometimes great things come from it. I don’t like it when my hubby goes out of town, but then I have awesome girl’s weekends that are much-needed.

  30. I really don’t like that my 2-year-old woke up early from her nap and is disrupting my blog-reading time, but I’m really grateful we have a fun afternoon in the kitchen ahead of us! 🙂

    I love this post. I really don’t like it when people are negative and never see the positive side of life.

  31. I really don’t like when it’s rainy and cold and I have to go to class. But I am thankful that I am able to be in school and that I have the ability to go outside whenever I choose…rainy or not.

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  33. Sometimes I get frustrated that Baby Boy still wants to nurse at 2 years old. But then, I have to step back and remind myself that I nourished our child for so long and am so lucky to have been able to do that. Great post as usual, Tina.

  34. I really don’t like that I do not have a job secured when I graduate in December, but I am so lucky to have an education and the opportunity to do whatever I love to do! (I’ll let you know exactly what that is when I figure it out!)

  35. Just this morning my 5yr old came down during my quiet time (6am) because she had a bad dream and needed her mom. I started to be annoyed and then thought, ‘this is exactly the moment that quiet times are supposed to prepare me for, a chance to show love, compassion and grace.’ I sat snuggling on the couch with her, thinking how often my Heavenly Father scoops me up in His arms when I need comfort.

    What a sweet post.

  36. I love your positivity and perspective on life!!!

    And your belly is gorgeous!!!!!! <3

    I really don't like sitting in traffic, and bad drivers, they really stress me out on a daily basis…. but I am thankful that I have the privilege, right and ability to drive a car to get to where I go whenever I want.

    Thank you.

  37. Meg says:

    I really don’t like waiting in line at the grocery store, but I’m glad I have money for groceries!

    Thanks for putting it all in perspective. I can’t wait for the little man to arrive! 🙂

  38. Dorry says:

    I really don’t like traffic in Dallas and bad drivers. That’s the 1st thing on my mind after doing a lot of driving today – much more than my usual. When I need to gain perspective and get out of my head, sometimes a walk outside is all it takes. Just taking in the nature around me is a reminder of creation and just how big the world is and how small I am.

  39. I always try to find the positive thing in all bad things, makes it easier 🙂

    Love your belly, you look so well!

  40. I love seeing your gorgeous baby belly:) You look great!

  41. Cheryl says:

    Hi and thanks for commenting on my blog
    You do pregnancy well, wow!!! all the best as you enter your last few months, will stay tuned and join in on my fitness friday to get back that pre-pregnancy bod!

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